MUSINGS: On Break-Ups and Cheating

Social Media has been feasting on celebrity break-ups left and right. As a swiftie, I also mourned the news about Joe Alwyn and my girl Taylor. But the break-up that strikes me the most is of Moira Dela Torre and Jason Hernandez.

I am not that big of a fan of Moira but I have listened to a couple of her songs. I was of those who reacted positively to their engagement announcement through a music video. I was one of those who shed happy tears in their wedding SDE. So when the news blew up that they were separating, I was taken by surprise. How come this happy Christian couple decided to separate ways? What exactly happened? 

I thought it was long over, that news was so 2022 when the ex-husband decided to post teasers of a random girl, adding fuel to a fire that has been so long over. People thought that he was soft-launching a new flame which turns out to be a teaser to a new song, a new song implying that he was still not over Moira. I was one of those who somehow didn't like how it seems like he is commercializing the break-up but then I realized, Moira wrote songs too about it too. But, it somehow feels so disrespectful to add snippets of the proposal and the wedding on the music video when the other person is trying her best to heal. To make it even worst, people from their life started posting online apparently to break the silence.

I've seen all the posts and started wondering how can anybody justify cheating, especially in marriage? How can people blatantly say that the only mistake of the other party is to listen to the call of the flesh like he just lied about spending Saturday night with the boys? And not just with this current issue, we all have witnessed a lot of celebrity cheating issues, spending time with a friend out of town, and eventually admitting to being a couple. I don't get it. If you want out of the relationship, then leave. 

Another thing that concerns me is forgiveness. "You're both Christians, why don't you just forgive each other, work it out, and move on" is what I always hear from people who wanted to help couples work it out. It pisses me off somehow because how do you just repair a trust that has been broken? And also, trauma after trauma, how does a person heal?

I am deeply sorry for this couple -- it's hard to heal and I know that, what's harder is they have to deal with it with everyone watching. I just pray that in time, they will both find peace in whatever path they will choose to take in life. Right now, I just wish that people around them will just shut up.

Ria